Monday, October 29, 2007

Theology of Christian Recovery

The primary distinctives that differentiate Christian Recovery from other approaches to life change lie in our approach to spirituality. Here are some of the major theological tenants of the Christian approach to recovery.

1. Recovery is truly Christian only if God is part of it. This God is not just a nebulous "Higher Power", but rather is the Creator of the Universe Who has revealed Himself in the Bible. Additionally, this God is a loving God, who showed His love by sending His Son, Jesus Christ, into this fallen world to save us. (John 3:16)

2. The Word of God is the authoritative rule and guide for our recovery. We believe there is, indeed, some objective TRUTH in this world and that it is revealed in the Holy Scriptures. (Hebrews 4:12)

3. There is a real devil. He is a real entity, who though the power of deception, is fighting for the minds of men. Truth is therefore the ultimate weapon in the spiritual warfare of Christian recovery. (John 8:31-32)

4. Sin is deceptive, powerful and addictive. As Christian author, Keith Miller states, sin (or the "control disease") is the root of all addictions and compulsive disorders. (Romans 7:15-25)

5. There is a Redeemer. Jesus Christ has won the victory over sin, death, and the devil by His death on the cross. (1 John 3:8b) Therefore, the message of the Gospel brings forgiveness and the power to experience real change in our lives through God's power. (Romans 1:16)

6. This is a fallen world. Not only are external things warped, perverse, confused, and corrupt, believers in recovery must still contend with their own fallen natures, as well. (Romans 7:21)

7. All human beings need spiritual rebirth. Because spiritual death is a reality, we must assume that everyone needs to experience new life from God. (John 3:3)

8. There is a significant difference between guilt and "toxic shame". Guilt is a response of the conscience to specific sinful actions. On the other hand, destructive (or "toxic") shame is an inner sense of being unlovable, unredeemable, hopeless, irreparably flawed, incomplete, and worthless. Everyone who struggles with a compulsive disorder experiences this to some degree. The Gospel provides the answer for both of these dilemmas. Confession and forgiveness are God's way to overcome guilt. And, growing in relationship to Him and other healthy people enables us to accept ourselves as loved and lovable. (1 John 4:9)

9. There is a definite difference between the terms "drunkard" and "alcoholic." According to the Bible, drunkenness is a moral condition. On the other hand, alcoholism is a therapeutic condition. What separates the addict from the non-addict is not how often they drink or how much they drink, but what happens when they do drink - the loss of control (or powerlessness). Once an individual becomes addicted, he can never be a social drinker. (Ephesians 5:18)

10. God works in processes. "Recovery" is not a one time, once-and- for-all thing - it is a process (Romans 12:2). Recovery is not just "fixing" ourselves, but rather it is gaining the "tools" to succeed in working out what God has already put within (sanctification). (Philippians 2:12,13)

11. God works through His Spirit. The word Greek word "paraclete" is used in the scriptures to refer to the Holy Spirit. This term means "counselor" or "personal tutor." To succeed in recovery, believers must learn to respond to God's Spirit and walk in His will for their lives. (John 16:13-15)

12. God works through people. There is no more isolated and lonely person than the addict. John Bradshaw says, "The deepest wound of toxic shame is the inability to develop meaningful, intimate, human relations." The message of Christian Recovery is that God's grace is experienced as a process which involves intensely honest and nurturing relationships with other people. They serve as agents of His grace to unravel our woundedness and reshape our thinking. (Hebrews 10:23-25)

13. Christian recovery is "intensive discipleship." "Putting the cork in the bottle" (not using drugs or alcohol) is no guarantee of any lasting change in an individual's life. What addicts need is a systematic commitment to an ongoing process of personal growth. Christian recovery means gaining new tools that enable us to live a new sober life and to remove all the "stumbling blocks" to a life of Christian victory. (2 Peter 1:5-11) We might also consider "recovery" as another word for what that Bible refers to as "sanctification".

14. Repentance is more that simply confessing our sins to God. We all must own up to our own sin if we are to experience forgiveness. (1 John 1:9) Still an additional step is necessary -- repentance. The Greek word for repentance is "metanouia" which implies a complete change of mind. New thinking comes from new attitudes that have been formed by new perspectives. (Acts 3:19)

15. "Rigorous honesty" is essential for true spirituality. Jesus declares that the truth will set us free (John 8:32) So, we must make a commitment to "walk in the light". (1 John 1:5-9)

16. There is a "therapeutic value" to talk. Self-revelation in a safe environment is a tremendously healing experience. Support groups provide an environment that promotes this process. (James 5:16)

17. "Grace flows freely through unclogged conduits." Christian workers cannot bring people to a place they have not come to themselves. Therefore, if we want to reach out to hurting people, we must be in the process of dealing with our own issues first. (1 Cor. 11:31; 2 Cor. 4:1-2)


The above was adapted from A Guide to Effective Rescue Mission Recovery Programs by Michael Liimatta, Director of Education for the Association of Gospel Rescue Missions. Visit their site at http://www.alcoholicsvictorious.org/

Friday, October 26, 2007

PASS ME NOT

I’ve blown it, dear Lord my life is a mess
I’ve done things all my way and I must confess
That nothing has gone right it’s all turned to sand
So, Lord take the wreckage I place in Your hand.

I come to You now and ask You to sear
My scarred heart with fire bring Your Spirit near
Take all that I am and what I could be
If I lived for You and stopped living for me.

    Pass me not, O gentle Savior. Hear my humble cry
    While on others You are calling, Do not pass me by.

You took all the wreckage and made my heart new
And I was so grateful to be livin’ for You
You gave me Your Spirit and filled me with fire
But as the years rolled by I lost my desire.

My life of faith faded my carnal life grew
And slowly, so slowly I drifted from You
O Lord, heal the pain and once more set me free
I want to surrender this wreckage to Thee.

    Pass me not, O gentle Savior. Hear my humble cry
    While on others You are calling, Do not pass me by.

And now I am old, Lord and ready to go
To the place You prepared for me so long ago
I fought the good fight, Lord I finished the race
And I am victorious because of Your grace

Yes, there were some bad times when I ran away
Like Jonah before me I failed to obey
But You never left me You prodded me on
Now, Lord I am ready my service is done.

    Savior, Savior, Hear my thankful cry
    While on others You were calling, You never passed me by!
        
Copyright © 1999,  Randy Wood.
All rights reserved.

Tuesday, October 16, 2007

12 Steps to being a Sponsor

1. I will not help you stay and wallow in Limbo.

2. I will help you to grow, to become more productive, by your definition.

3. I will help you become more autonomous, more loving of yourself, more excited, less sensitive, more free to continue becoming the authority for your own living.

4. I cannot give you dreams or "fix you up", simply because I cannot.

5. I cannot give you growth, or grow for you. You must grow yourself, by facing reality, grim as it may be at times.

6. I cannot take away your loneliness or pain.

7. I cannot sense your world for you, evaluate your goals for you, or tell you what is best for you in your world, for you have your own world.

8. I cannot convince you of the crucial choice of choosing the scary uncertainty of growing, over the safe misery of not growing.

9. I want to be with you and know you as a rich and growing friend; yet I cannot get close to you when YOU choose not to GROW.

10. When I begin to care for you out of pity, when I begin to lose trust in you, then I am toxic and bad, inhibiting for you, and you for me.

11. You MUST know - my helping is conditional; I will be with you, I will hang in there with you, as long as I continue to get even the slightest hints that you are willing and still trying to GROW.

12. If you can accept all of this, then perhaps we can help each other to become what God meant us to be - mature adults - leaving childishness forever to the little children.

Anonymous

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Tuesday, October 9, 2007

Let's Do Church!

Just a quick invitation to all those in the Lee County area of Southwest Florida:

On Saturday nights we are doing church at the ARC.

6:30 pm starts with a potluck dinner and communion, and then at 7:30, we are having an interactive Bible Study -- starting with
I Corinthians.

Check out our schedule of this, and other open meetings at:
http://www.adventrecovery.org/services.htm
and then kindly RSVP using one of the methods on the "contact us" page. Thanks.

Looking forward to meeting you!

Randy

Friday, October 5, 2007

A Former Alcoholic/Addict’s Plea

A Former Alcoholic/Addict’s Plea
for Christian Help for Our Brothers and Sisters
Dick B. © 2007. All rights reserved.

Today’s Addiction Dilemma

Shall a seemingly hopeless, recidivist addict be sent for help to church, a clergyman, a physician, a psychologist, a detox, a hospital, A.A., a 12-Step program, treatment or rehab, counseling, a mental health clinic, the drug court, jail or prison, a dui information course, a diversion program, a secular recovery program, a Christian recovery program, a Christ-centered program, behavioral therapy, nutritional therapy, pharmaceutical therapy, or what! It should be no surprise to learn that most chronic cases have done most or all of the above. I did. Yet, in 21 successful A.A. years, I’ve seen relapse after relapse, failure after failure, overdoses, drunkenness, and despair that has led to death by any number of means. Read More